If love is blind, then hate cannot see: hate within enduring parenting disputes

Leanne Francia; Prudence M Millear; Rachael Sharman

doi:10.1080/15379418.2019.1568947

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If love is blind, then hate cannot see: hate within enduring parenting disputes

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If love is blind, then hate cannot see: hate within enduring parenting disputes

Leanne Francia, Prudence M Millear and Rachael Sharman

Journal of Child Custody, Vol.16(3), pp.248-267

2019

DOI: https://doi.org/10.1080/15379418.2019.1568947

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hate

child custody

high conflict

co-parenting

UniSC Diversity Area - Life Stages

Drawing on interviews with separated mothers (N¼36) this Australian qualitative study explored "hate" in a child custody context within enduring parenting disputes. This preliminary study observed that hate may be present within enduring parenting disputes. A conceptualization of hate, being circular theory of hate in co-parental conflict was developed which tentatively proposes that in a post separation context, hate may functionally serve as a self-protective mechanism that enables a parent to avoid experiencing their own emotions; avoid confronting or taking responsibility for their own behavior; or avoid facing their own lived experiences. Three themes emerged from the study that may contribute to understanding hate's genesis, growth, and stability post separation. Firstly, an inability or unwillingness to self-reflect, secondly, inverse caring, and thirdly, relentlessness. Practitioners working with hate in a child custody context may consider these tentative observations when identifying barriers parents might experience that prevent them from keeping their child's needs front and center following separation.

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Title: If love is blind, then hate cannot see: hate within enduring parenting disputes
Authors: Leanne Francia (Author) - University of the Sunshine Coast - School of Social Sciences
Prudence M Millear (Author) - University of the Sunshine Coast - School of Social Sciences
Rachael Sharman (Author) - University of the Sunshine Coast - School of Social Sciences
Publication details: Journal of Child Custody, Vol.16(3), pp.248-267
Publisher: Routledge
Date published: 2019
DOI: 10.1080/15379418.2019.1568947
ISSN: 1537-9418
Organisation Unit: School of Social Sciences - Legacy; University of the Sunshine Coast, Queensland; Engage Research Lab; School of Health - Psychology; School of Health and Behavioural Sciences - Legacy; School of Health - Midwifery
Language: English
Record Identifier: 99450617702621
Output Type: Journal article

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