Abstract
Do the young need more discipline to help them through life? Spiritually speaking discipline is an internal quality. Discipline is an act of unconditional love. For children it is our love and care that carries them towards adulthood. A spiritually centred relationship is a powerful tool for parents and teachers to expand meaning in the lives of the children. The home is the foundation for the ethical development of the whole child. In this sense the school needs to be an extension of the home that generates possibilities for safe self expression. Children, who are always learning, learn everything through their environment. Discipline is internalised through offering children clear choices and outlining clear consequences. It should never be punitive. The maxim "Discipline should never exceed the amount of love" is worth remembering. Avoid emotional coercion and reject it when you meet it in your child. Emotional blackmail is never a good way to get one's way. Remember that: Bad behaviour is always a cry for help; bad behavioural habits are learnt; the child is not the behaviour; the hallmarks of discipline in a classroom and at home are essentially the same. A safe and happy child needs little intervention. Choices should be limited yet challenging. Consequences need to be clear, simple and just. Relationship is the foundation of good discipline. Good self-esteem builds good behaviour. Do not use put downs in discipline - the child is NOT the behaviour. Love is the foundation of relationship and successful discipline. Consistency is also the key to discipline. Be consistent but also flexible - justice is not blind but needs to be responsive Honesty and open communications at all time - admit it when you make a mistake. Respect and honour your children - never talk down.